FROM A MEETUP TO A MOVEMENT
Millie noticed Toronto's polyamorous spaces lacked diversity — despite being the most diverse city in the world. She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC (TNB) group, which grew into the world's largest polyamory Facebook community for BIPOC folx.
TNB's workshop on decolonial love became the most-requested event in the community. Millie began laying the foundations for something bigger — an education platform that could reach beyond Toronto.
Millie and Nick launched Decolonizing Love as a social enterprise — advocating for polyamory through a critical theory lens, exploring its intersection with decolonization, desirability politics, and toxic masculinity.
Featured in Cosmopolitan, Business Insider, HuffPost, and Vogue India. The platform expanded from coaching into workshops, educational content, and community tools — reaching audiences in 50+ countries.
550K+ community members. 30+ workshops delivered. Peer coaching sessions, a growing digital toolkit, and a vision for building the world's most trusted resource for liberated relationships.
Who Are Millie Boella and Nick Piperno?
THE HUMANS BEHIND THE MISSION
Millie
Co-Founder & Polyamory Educator
"The polyamory community was white, and I couldn't find myself in it. So I built a space where I could."
Millie is a writer, artivist, and decolonial thinker who founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC community before co-creating Decolonizing Love. She brings deep grounding in critical theory, community organizing, and survivor-centered practice to everything the platform builds.
Nick
Co-Founder & Relationship Coach
"I spent years helping executives lead better. Now I help people love better. And it turns out the skills are the same!"
Nick is a relationship coach who brings over a decade of executive coaching methodology to his work with individuals, couples, and polycules. Polyamorous since 2010, he's passionate about helping men unlearn toxic masculinity and build more accountable ways of relating.
As Featured In
THE WAY SOCIETY TEACHES US TO LOVE IS A PRODUCT OF COLONIALISM, NOT HUMAN NATURE.
Decolonizing Love exists to challenge dominant narratives about relationships and reclaim the diversity of love that has always existed. Through coaching, peer sessions, educational resources, and community spaces, we support people in building relationships that honor who they truly are.
Educate
Challenge the norms through workshops, content, and critical dialogue.
Support
Walk alongside people through coaching, peer sessions, and community.
Liberate
Build tools and spaces for relationships free from domination.
How Was Monogamy Spread Through Colonialism?
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