Relationship education that decolonizes how we love. Unlearn the colonial scripts of monogamy, hierarchy, and domination to navigate ethical non-monogamy, intentional community, and the relationships you choose.
Most relationship advice ignores power, race, and colonial norms. We don't. Relationships are shaped by systems. We are here to dismantle them.
Love does not need exclusivity to be real. Connection is not scarce. Connection is limitless.
Monogamy as the only model is a colonial inheritance, not human nature. We reclaim the diversity of love.
We create brave spaces rooted in accountability, not perfection. Growth happens through compassion and curiosity, not judgment.
Reject shame. Embrace the full spectrum of connection. Your relationships belong to you.
Our work has been recognized by leading publications around the world, sparking important conversations about love, relationships, and decolonization.
As Featured In
A heterosexual couple with a young child open their relationship. Nothing is wrong between them. The communication is strong, the sex is good, and both spent months reading and reflecting before deciding together. He calls himself a feminist and means it. And still, every time she leaves for a date with another man, something in him locks up.
Read more →
Every time Millie posts about hierarchical polyamory being unethical, some version of the same comment arrives: my children will of course take priority, which is why egalitarian polyamory could never work for me. This essay argues that the objection rests on a category error, confusing immediate care needs with relational hierarchy.
Read more →
This starts as a small annoyance and turns into an argument. Hunting for anarchism podcasts while organizing a relationship anarchy conference, the writer kept finding relationship anarchy by polyamorists and almost nothing about anarchism itself. The essay is careful about what it isn't accusing anyone of. Plenty of relationship anarchists genuinely refuse to rank romantic partners above friends or chosen family. The problem is that for many of them the critique of hierarchy stops at their own relationships and never reaches the workplace, the police, the prison, or the state.
Read more →
Sixteen years ago, on a fourth date in Montréal, two 24-year-olds wandered into an Indigo bookstore, found a copy of 1,000 Questions to Ask Before You Marry Someone, and spent four hours in the cafe working through it. Money habits. Gender roles. Politics. Where they wanted to live. What a good life at sixty looked like. They came out of the afternoon figuring they were about 80% compatible. Millie knows how that sounds, clinical and unromantic, the stuff of engineers and lawyers rather than artists and lovers. But both of them had just left long relationships that ended over values instead of feeling: her four year engagement to a man who wanted her living with his parents in a grey English town as a traditional wife, and Nick's years with a devout Catholic while he was adamantly atheist.
Read more →
You'll hear the argument all over polyamory discourse: hierarchies in relationships are natural and inevitable, so anyone claiming to practice egalitarian polyamory is kidding themselves. This essay takes that apart by showing the word hierarchy is doing two entirely different jobs in it. Social hierarchy is structural, something the world does to you whether you consent or not. Relational hierarchy is a decision you make about how to treat your partners.
Read more →
It opens in an ICU. The people who actually hold your life together, a partner, a metamour who helped raise your child, a chosen sibling of twenty years, wait behind a locked hospital door while reception checks for the one credential the law respects: a marriage certificate or shared blood. From there the essay picks up its news hook, Portland's March 2026 ordinance protecting polyamorous people from discrimination in housing, jobs, and public accommodation, and asks why a law like that was ever necessary.
Read more →New workshops, product drops, events, and exclusive discounts, delivered to your inbox before anyone else.
No spam, ever. Unsubscribe anytime.
We use cookies to enhance your experience, analyze traffic, and serve relevant content.
