
Polyamory
Peer
Sessions
Private coaching and mediation sessions for individuals, couples, and polycules — with Millie, Nick, or both.
WHY CHOOSE US?
Personalized coaching tailored to your unique relationship journey, designed to help you navigate your individual path with confidence and cultural insight.
Individualized Attention
Explore your polyamorous identity and relationships with personalized, one-on-one guidance tailored to your unique journey.
Expert Guidance
Rooted in decades of personal and cultural experience navigating non-monogamy, identity, and the dynamics of love.
Multilingual Support
Sessions available in Dutch, English, French, Swahili, and Spanish — connecting with you in the language you're most comfortable in.
WHAT YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH
Personal Growth
Deep, introspective conversations that help you understand your own desires and boundaries.
Self-Discovery
Uncover aspects of your identity and relationship preferences you may not have explored.
Communication Mastery
Effective strategies tailored to polyamorous dynamics — express your needs with empathy and clarity.
Conflict Resolution
Tools to navigate conflicts, turning challenges into opportunities for strengthening bonds.
Emotional Resilience
Skills to manage jealousy and insecurity, fostering a supportive and secure relationship environment.
Community Connection
Tap into the collective wisdom of non-monogamous communities and find your place.
Relationship Design
Explore different relationship structures and co-create a model that works uniquely for you.
Empowered Choices
Become more confident making decisions that align with your values and desires.

BUILT ON LIVED EXPERIENCE
Decolonizing Love was founded to bring diversity and understanding to the world of polyamory. Our coaching isn't just advice; it's a journey rooted in the lived experiences of two polyamorists who have navigated the worlds of identity, culture, and love across continents.
Millie brings a lifetime of polyamorous living, informed by her Kenyan tribal culture and her path as a bisexual and non-binary individual. Nick has been challenging norms and embracing polyamory since 2010, contributing a critical perspective on toxic masculinity and the dynamics of love and relationships.
Together, we have connected with a diverse spectrum of individuals, couples, and polycules from over 12 countries, enriching our understanding and ability to offer relatable, resonant guidance.
What Happens in a Polyamory Peer Session?
A HOLISTIC
SUPPORT SYSTEM
Our sessions go beyond the traditional coaching framework. While we are not therapists, our goal is to facilitate a deeper understanding of your emotions and experiences, providing tailored resources and support that's trauma-informed, confidential, and safe.
Exploring Non-Monogamy
Looking at different relationship structures and building agreements & boundaries that are right for you.
Negotiating Boundaries
Understand the importance of boundaries and learn how to set and negotiate them with your partners.
Building Secure Attachment
Develop skills to create and maintain secure, fulfilling attachments within a non-monogamous context.
Power in Relationships
Understand how systems of oppression influence relationships and learn to navigate them with awareness and resilience.
Addressing Jealousy & Trauma
Identify how past traumas affect your relationships and develop strategies to manage feelings of jealousy, turning them into growth.
Effective Communication
Enhance your ability to communicate openly and honestly with all partners, addressing needs and resolving conflicts.
Ready to explore any of these topics?
Book Your SessionUNLEARNING TOXIC MASCULINITY IN RELATIONSHIPS
Patriarchy, possessiveness, and dominance are learned behaviors — not fixed traits. Nick works specifically with men who want to show up differently in their relationships.
These sessions explore how toxic masculinity shapes your attachment patterns, communication habits, and relationship dynamics — and give you practical tools to unlearn them.
Possessiveness & Control
Recognizing ownership patterns and replacing them with trust and autonomy.
Emotional Availability
Breaking through emotional walls without performing vulnerability.
Jealousy & Ego
Understanding the difference between genuine needs and ego-driven reactions.
Accountability Without Shame
Learning to take responsibility for harm without spiraling into defensiveness or self-flagellation.
470+ CLIENTS. 26+ COUNTRIES. 1 COMMUNITY.
REAL PEOPLE. REAL CHANGE.
Our clients come from all walks of life — different backgrounds, different relationship structures, different struggles. What they share is the courage to show up and do the work.
Hear directly from someone who's been through it — no scripts, no filters, just an honest account of what it's like to work with us.
FREQUENTLY
ASKED
QUESTIONS
Everything you need to know about peer sessions, mediation, and how we can support your journey.
ARE YOU READY?
Become the best version of yourself in your polyamorous relationships. Let Millie and Nick guide you every step of the way.
Book Your Peer Session NowNot able to afford a peer session, but really need help? We offer accessible options every month.
Free Peer Session
One free session per month, first-come first-served.
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Four sliding scale spots per month, first-come first-served.
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