EMBARK ON YOUR PERSONAL POLYAMOROUS JOURNEY wITH DECOLONIZING LOVE

Explore intimate, one-on-one coaching with Millie and Nick, your guides to a deeper understanding of love.

Personalized coaching tailored to your unique relationship journey and designed to help you navigate your individual path with confidence and cultural insight.

WHY CHOOSE US?

Individualized attention to explore your polyamorous identity and relationships.

Expert guidance rooted in decades of personal and cultural experience.

Support available in Dutch, English, French, Swahili, and Spanish.

OUR STORY

Decolonizing Love was founded to bring diversity and understanding to the world of polyamory. Our coaching isn’t just advice; it’s a journey rooted in the lived experiences of two polyamorists who have navigated the worlds of identity, culture, and love across continents. Millie brings a lifetime of polyamorous living, informed by her Kenyan tribal culture and her path as a bisexual and non-binary individual. Nick, on the other hand, has been challenging norms and embracing polyamory since 2010, contributing a critical perspective on toxic masculinity and the dynamics of love and relationships.

Millie and Nick, polyamory educators and activists, posing together, promoting inclusive relationships and diverse love dynamics

Together, we have connected with a diverse spectrum of individuals, couples, and polycules from over 12 countries, enriching our understanding and ability to offer relatable, resonant guidance.

BEYOND COACHING

A HOLISTIC SUPPORT SYSTEM

Our sessions go beyond the traditional coaching framework. While we are not therapists, our goal is to facilitate a deeper understanding of your emotions and experiences, providing tailored resources and support that’s trauma-informed, confidential, and safe. Possible themes include:

Exploring Non-Monogamy

Looking at different relationships structures and building agreements/ boundaries that are right for you.

Negotiating Boundaries

Understand the importance of boundaries and learn how to set and negotiate them with your partners.

Building Secure Attachment

Develop skills to create and maintain secure, fulfilling attachments within a non-monogamous context.

Power in Relationships

Understand how systems of oppression influence relationships and learn to navigate them with awareness and resilience.

Addressing Jealousy and Trauma

Identify how past traumas affect your relationships and develop strategies to manage feelings of jealousy, turning them into opportunities for growth.

Effective Communication Skills

Enhance your ability to communicate openly and honestly with all partners, addressing needs and resolving conflicts.

TESTIMONIALS

  • ★★★★★

    Being new to Polyamory and experiencing difficulties within my polyamorous relationships, I decided that I needed to reach out to experienced folks that could offer perspective and knowledge.

    I scheduled a 30 min. session with Nick & Millie. I can’t express enough positive words for my gratefulness for this session.

    - Sam

  • ★★★★★

    Was great to talk with Decolonizing Love. They were very helpful and provided some constructive insight while also providing some good resources to move forward in the journey of ENM.

    - Jill

  • ★★★★★

    For a couple of folks who arent used to opening up to people Nick and Millie were wicked easy to talk to. Very professional and friendly and provided really great tools and resources for what we were speaking about. We would definitely recommend either of them if someone was looking for peer support on these topics. 5 stars!

    - Beth

  • ★★★★★

    I had a great session with Millie. She was thoughtful and listened and provided great resources and encouragement.

    - Maria

  • ★★★★★

    Nick was so kind, thoughtful and helpful. I was having a big wobble and he really helped me see things from a new perspective and I left with loads of tools to help me move forward.

    - Sam

  • ★★★★★

    Millie was very supportive, empathetic and spoke with truth and conviction in a very soft, gentle and empowering way. Although the session was short, Millie used the time well and was engaged in finding ways to support me in my issue, providing not only reassurance, but also valuable advice.

    - Oana

  • ★★★★★

    Very helpful, not judgmental - approached with problem solving and ideas. Took me out of a spiral of doom into a plan of action. Will definitely be back and will encourage my partner to as well.

    - Laura

  • ★★★★★

    Back again, this time with Nick, and again it was just such a great session. I feel like I learn so much in so little time. There just are no models in my life for this so it is so reassuring to have conversations with someone who has deep experience in these non mainstream forms of relationships. I also really appreciate the way discusses the way masculinity can play out in our poly dynamics.

    - Chris

  • ★★★★★

    I felt SO SEEN and so held through all of the kinks of executing on my desires. In a world where it is so unsafe to have desires of any kind, decolonizing love can be one of the greatest works of our time. Thank you so much for being so present and real in everything you do.

    - Angela

  • ★★★★★

    Incredible session. I felt heard throughout and was given practical exercises and prompts for what I was curious about. High recommend to spend some time if you have any questions/concerns about your relationships. I look forward to diving into the podcast and book recommendations they will send!

    - Chris

  • ★★★★★

    Anytime I have booked a session; I am always so grateful and touched by their kind, loving and insightful words/advice. Their values on love, care, safety and community speak volumes and it it always shows. Thank you.

    - Michelle

  • ★★★★★

    I felt so cared for, connected and understood when I spoke with Nick and Millie. They have such a beautiful and objective way of viewing the world! I highly recommend booking a session with them! I will definitely be booking again!

    - Alisha

  • ★★★★★

    Simply wonderful. They are experts at their craft. They listened without judgement and gave me insight. I will definitely be booking with them again.

    - Akosua Osei

BE THE PARTNER

YOU WISH TO

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IN A RELATIONSHIP

WHAT tO EXPECT fROM a PEER SESSION wITH MILLIE aND NICK

  • Engage in deep, introspective conversations that help you understand your own desires and boundaries within non-monogamous relationships.

  • Uncover aspects of your identity and relationship preferences that you may not have explored, empowering you to embrace your true self.

  • Learn effective communication strategies tailored to polyamorous dynamics, ensuring that you can express your needs and listen to your partners' needs with empathy and clarity.

  • Gain tools to navigate conflicts in non-monogamous relationships, turning potential challenges into opportunities for strengthening bonds

  • Develop skills to manage emotions like jealousy and insecurity, fostering a supportive and secure relationship environment.

  • Tap into the collective wisdom of non-monogamous communities, learning from the experiences of others and finding your place within these dynamic networks.

  • With guidance from Millie and Nick, explore different relationship structures and co-create a relationship model that works uniquely for you and your partners.

  • Become more confident in making decisions that align with your values and desires, enabling you to lead a fulfilling polyamorous life.

JOIN THE JOURNEY

Are you ready to become the best version of yourself in your polyamorous relationships? Let Millie and Nick guide you every step of the way.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

  • Each peer session is a private, confidential, one-on-one conversation where you can explore your non-monogamous relationships in a safe and supportive environment. Millie and Nick use their extensive experience to offer personalized advice and strategies tailored to your specific needs and circumstances.

  • You can choose to have your sessions last 30 or 60 minutes, providing ample time to discuss your concerns, develop strategies, and plan next steps for your relationship journey.

  • Absolutely! Whether you are new to the concept of polyamory or have been practicing non-monogamy for years, Millie and Nick are here to guide you through any stage of your journey.

  • Yes, you are welcome to book sessions with your partner or members of your polycule. Millie and Nick are experienced in facilitating discussions that involve multiple partners, ensuring that each person's voice is heard and addressed. The price for sessions remains the same, whether it's individual or with partners, as our focus is on providing tailored support to your relationship structure.

  • For pricing details and payment methods, please visit our Booking Page. We strive to make our services accessible, and various payment options are available.