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Millie Boella
Surviving Online Harassment Campaigns Designed to Destroy You
From right wing mobs to leftist call out culture.
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Decolonizing Love Blog: Explore Insights on Relationships
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Decolonization
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Millie Boella
Ways Indigenous People Relate Differently from Western Norms
An exploration of global Indigenous kinship systems and how their egalitarian models can inspire modern relationships, parenting, and bodily autonomy.
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Designing Custom Polyamorous Milestones Beyond the Relationship Escalator
Freedom can be daunting, when you leave a familiar path. Here are some ideas to help you on your journey.
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Polyamory Book Recommendations
For the curious, beginners and advanced polyamorists.
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Millie Boella
Why Overprotecting Her From Abusive Poly Men Isn’t Protecting Her
Cages don't have to be physical
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Kids Aren’t a Hierarchy: How to Parent as an Egalitarian Polyamorist
Why children coming first doesn't mean your romantic relationship dynamics must be in a pecking order.
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Polyamory
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Millie Boella
Relationship Anarchy: Is The Polyamory Community Where Revolutionary Anarchist Politics Went to Die?
When radical politics become a mere lifestyle.
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How to Know What Your Values Are in Polyamory
Before the saxophones start playing.
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This is How You Dismantle Couple Privilege
If polyamory is dinner, you are the host who sets the table, not society, and you decide how fairness gets served.
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Polyamory
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Millie Boella
Polyamory Under the Law
From locked hospital doors to radical relationship agreements: A manifesto for the families the colonial state doesn't recognize.
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Your 5 Core Needs in a Polyamorous Relationship
Questions every polyamorous person should be able to answer about themselves and be able to tell their partners because going with the flow often leads to being neglected.
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Before You Open Your Relationship, You Need to Become an Individual Again
Why reading all the polyamory books and creating the agreements isn't enough: The unglamorous, essential work of differentiation.
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10 Practices for Healthy Hinge Relationships
And the monogamous habits you need to break if you want your polyamorous dynamics to thrive.
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Millie Boella
Polyamory is Not for Boys
The Failed Gambit: Why Klay Thompson and David Harbour Prove Patriarchy Can’t Hack ENM
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What's Worse Than a Codependent Partner? A Codependent Metamour
From the chapter of my life I call Fatal Attraction: The Polyamory Movie. Read how I survived a metamour who wanted my friends, my home, and our hinge all to herself.
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Polyamorous Boundaries in a Culture of Codependency
Master the difference between rules, agreements and boundaries, unlearn toxic enmeshment and transition to a practice of responsible autonomy.
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Millie Boella
Is Anyone on the Left Pure Enough?
When the chronically online gentrify leftism.
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Millie Boella
Sneakyarchy: But Babe You Said You're Not Hierarchical!
Why Good Intentions Alone Won't Make You an Egalitarian Partner
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Millie Boella
A Dead French Anthropologist Is Why You Think Egalitarian Polyamory is Difficult
Unlearning Hierarchy in Love
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Millie Boella
Radical Consciousness, Colonial Tools: How the Left Addresses Harm and How It Can Do Better
Reclaiming Accountability from Call-out Culture
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Polyamory
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Millie Boella
What I’ve Learned From My Lifelong Journey In Polyamory
I’ve been non-monogamous since my teens. Here are five things I’ve learned.
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Dating Across the Divide: How Transparency-Prioritizing and Autonomy-Prioritizing Polyamorists Can Actually Make It Work
Strategies for Loving Across Different Poly Frameworks Without Losing Yourself
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Decolonization
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Millie Boella
Decolonizing Black Love
From the archives, November 2023. Exploring the wounds of colonialism and slavery that still haunt Black love in the diaspora, and the path toward liberation in romantic love.
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They Want You to Feel Dirty for Being Polyamorous
Where Poly Shame Comes From, How It Shows Up, and How to Decolonize It: A Path to Body and Mind Liberation
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The Grief Nobody Warned You About in Polyamory
Why polyamory needs grief rituals, and what decolonized death work already knows
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Millie Boella
Manufacturing Consent, Ignoring Conduct: The Chomsky-Epstein Connection.
What Noam Chomsky taught me about empire and reckoning with intellectual hero worship
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Top 10 Tips for Managing the Holidays in Polyamory
Why the Nov-Jan Holidays Are Polyamory’s Stress Test
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Millie Boella
The Taste of Eve
Girlhood Initiations and Queer Becoming in Kenya’s Rift Valley.
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Decolonization
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Millie Boella
Decolonizing Love: An Invitation
How an accidental journey to unlearn empire became a movement to decolonize our intimacy.
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Practical Safer Sex for Polyamorists Everywhere: A Digital Guidebook
An Accessible Global Guide to Safety, Pleasure, and Consent in Real World Polyamorous Relationships
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Millie Boella
The Language of Betrayal (Part 2): Does Cheating Exist in Polyamory?
A Brief History of Infidelity: From Adultery to Consent Culture
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Millie Boella
The Language of Power Is Vagueness (Part 1)
The Cowardice and Anti-Intellectualism of the Polyamory Community
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Millie Boella
Decolonizing Therapy Also Means Ending the Pathologizing of Non-Monogamy
Why Therapy Still Polices Love: From Victorian ‘Hysteria’ to Modern Monogamy
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Millie Boella
Charlie Kirk: Every Empire Needs a Corpse to Blame the Rebels
Privilege Makes You Useful to empire, Not Safe from it.
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Millie Boella
Why Some English-Speaking Polyamorists Perform Virtue about Sex While the French Don't
Sex, love, and cultural scripts.
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Millie Boella
How did the polyamory community drift into being so unempathetic?
Tracing the pendulum swing in polyamory culture, from cushioning hierarchy to shaming transparency and co-regulation needs.
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Polyamory
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Millie Boella
Polyamory Boundary Frameworks: When varying needs of freedom and transparency collide
There are two camps in polyamory: those who prioritize transparency and those who prioritize autonomy. Why their boundary frameworks clash, and how trauma shapes them.
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